Love Is A Parable

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Personal Reflection: 20 Hard Truths

“Look at me, I’m a loser, I’m a winner, I’m good, I’m bad. I’m a sinner, I’m a killer. What I’m doing, I’m saying that I’m human.”
― Kendrick Lamar


While taking a morning stroll, I begin to reflect on my life.   I am not sure if this is a combination of the holiday season, transitions of life, the inundation of mass communication, or because of the work that I do in the value-based education sector.  Either way, I begin to jot down these 20 hard truths.

  1. Sadness isn’t necessarily a precursor to depression.   People can literally be having the best time of their lives and are hit with a bout of depression.

  2. White Americans do not have a safe space to deconstruct racism like the institutions of safe spaces established to encourage and fortify it.

  3. Poorly constructed and implemented DEI initiatives have caused more harm than good. Read our article on Defunding DEI to learn more.

  4. No matter the efficiency level, a mother is perceived as the better parent.

  5. Men committing suicide at a higher rate is a key indicator that something extremely important is being overlooked.

  6. For nearly 20 years, Black Men having the lowest employment rate is not solely rooted in life management practices, but a direct correlation to systematic racism and oppression.

  7. Disliking something doesn’t make it untrue.

  8. Failing to seek treatment doesn’t relieve one of an ailment, disorder, and disease.  Unfortunately, many people believe that because they have not been diagnosed with something, they don’t have it.

  9. Same-race or intraracial discrimination is not the same thing as racism.

  10. Race and culture aren’t always mutually exclusive.

  11. Betrayal only comes from those we’ve trusted, no matter the level of trust.

  12. Adulthood is a social construct where being mature and grown are never clearly defined.

  13. In America, there is a social conditioning to vilify successful Black Americans.

  14. Social Media is seldom praised for being instrumental in revamping our communication.  Many people are now able to express succinct thoughts in 140 characters or less.

  15. Proper English doesn’t exist in America; however, we attempt to standardize it.

  16. Everyone doesn’t want to own a home and that is ok.

  17. Though post-secondary and higher education are necessary, we should really examine its accessibility, affordability, and administration practices.

  18. Anger shouldn’t be our default emotion when confronting or acknowledging the truth.

  19. In faith, tradition seems to be more valued than the content of the sacred text or the intent of the faith.

  20. Specifically for fathers and husbands, know the difference between protecting and worshipping. Sometimes, we worship the things we should be protecting, which causes us to lose them. 

Love Is A Parable- an initiative and movement that later became an organization within itself. Love is A Parable is a DBA and subsidiary of Altar and Dwelling Place, Inc. We are a charitable and educational 501c3 organization, that provides character, social, and leadership development to those who have an aspiration toward unity, love, and kindness through a reflective thinking approach and sacred-box theory that involves value-based education.


J. Dwayne Garnett, BSRT, MHA, QP
Chief Executive Officer
Love Is A Parable
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